What does one do with all the time in the world?

June 11, 2015

Six weeks into my Sabbatical – I sit here reflecting. The days seem busy and at stages I feel like I am not achieving much at all. But why is there this constant drive to achieve at all one asks. Why not relax and simply stare at the moon, the fire, the ocean. So for those of you that are wondering what someone who has written 14 books and stood on over 1,000 stages in the past ten years does with all of he time in the world. Here is a brief synopsis of the past six weeks:

With the mask of Tutankhamen

With the mask of Tutankhamen

  • I have lost several kilo’s and my skin looks better and I am definitely more relaxed
  • I have been working on understanding my blood pressure. Ever since I was 25 my BP has been 130/95 now I have it around 125/85 and even down as far as 110/80. The main thing is I know the triggers, Coffee, Alcohol and Stress. Cayenne pepper has been a blessing in helping this
  • I am drinking almost zero alcohol. I was always someone who loved to binge drink… from time to time
  • I have been working on our new feature film, Arjuna, now draft twelve of the script is in Draft two of the Screenplay. It’s feeling great and we launched our crowdfunding project to assist with the tens of thousands I have spent on it personally. https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/a-story-that-inspired-1-1-billion-people/x/5461155#/story
  • I have launched a documentary on my old band – Charley Browne and am talking to they guys about recording a few new tracks: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_q-FNZoeiug&spfreload=10
  • I have been re writing the manuscript for my new book on Pythagoras. This has taken a lot of work with the help of Todd Hutchison, Dave Rogers and Landi Jac as we have had a closer look at the esoterics of his messages and reconstituted them. I am very excited about this work
  • I have been studying full out Marketing on line, so I can share aspects of it with our inner circle and so we at Rock Your Life can become better at it
  • I have had plenty of animal encounters, from having an eagle on my arm, to interacting with a porcupine to visiting several Lion and Tiger sanctuaries
  • I have relooked at every system and product we have at Rock Your Life, surveyed our market place and know more what you want from us and who you think we are. Expect a different us in a relaunch.
  • I have been to Landi’s home town Bloemfontein and seen everywhere she grew up, partied, lived, loved and lost and that has given me a deeper understanding of the love of my life.
  • Together we have had so much fun, from lunching at Wineries, to writing in café’s to visiting Cape Town like tourists, climbing Table Mountain, going over some of it’s stunning passes and sunsets at cool beaches
  • I have auctioned my home in New Zealand and been reviewing property, including a whole re look at life and financial goals and re framing those for the first time in a few years
  • I have de cluttered, getting rid of hoards of stuff from my NZ home
  • We have designed our whole Europe trip starting July, including a Northern Lights cruise and January visit to the Caribbean as well, over 20 countries in the next few months
  • I have deepened and strengthened my relationship with Landi and our beautiful doggie Simon (Seamon), where we have taken the time to have so much deeper and more transformational conversation that ever before and that most people never do, plus I have been practising animal communication
  • I have been studying ancient wisdom in documentaries, rare books we have obtained and online, plus I have a new found interest in a series TV show I never had before
  • I have written a couple of new songs
Enjoying walking Simon

Enjoying walking Simon

… and finally – I have gotten out of the habit of needing my laptop, replying to emails just because I felt obligated and have even had it off for days. In fact … one other thing. This is first time I have looked at what I have achieved, whereas I used to consider it daily and beat myself up if I didn’t tick off my to do list.. now I don’t even have one and I feel a lot lighter

One word is all it takes

May 25, 2015

Im into week four of my sabbatical and it hasn’t been all roses. Quite frankly I found myself falling into old patterns, like doing emails, Facebooking and other equally mundane tasks. So I simply switched it all off… for days. At the same time the universe assisted by allowing me to drop and break my cell phone, taking further communication and temptation away.

At Rock Your Life we pride ourselves on bringing you up to date, cutting edge stuff to save you time in your life and business. We don’t sell solutions, you can get those anywhere. What we sell is getting to where you want to go on the superhighway, not by horse and cart.

So I have been studying product launches, edutainment, and how to understand your market. Let me give you an example.

What if you could bring what you do down to just one word. (Wouldn’t that help at Networking functions)

2015 Summit 2.001

I looked at our three principals at Rock Your Life: Dave Rogers is an ex banker and billion dollar bond trader, but thats not who he is. Landi Jac is an ex human resources professional and consultant, but that’s boring for her and I’m an ex senior manager for a financial services company and ex rockstar. That means nothing for us or you our customer. So after discussion, research, testing and measuring opinions this is what I came up with:

Dave Rogers represents Bravery – Hell he is one of the most fearless and brave people I know.

Landi Jac is all about Liberty – She liberates you from the mundane is all her advice in all circumstance

Mike Handcock – well I am all about Discovery – thats what I do for you. Ever been on a Soul Journey with me?

This one simple piece of research will change the way we write to you, the way we communicate at events and the way in which we deliver product. You will have a better experience because of it and you will learn how to do it too.

So a sabbatical can be used to update your knowledge, it can be to view things differently. In the 1980’s people had a 20 minute attention span. Now it’s 9 seconds. I guess if your still reading, I have achieved my point.

Get your business down to one word. It will liberate you.

Catch ya later – Im off to my You Tube haven now to watch some cool stuff and upload a documentary I am in.

Our new film – ARJUNA

May 18, 2015

BREAKING NEWS: – Later this week we will be launching our CrowdFunding Campaign for our new film: ‘ARJUNA’ This is a major motion picture we are hoping to launch and we have a stunning team getting this off the ground. We have been working on this since 2012. Stage 1 of funding will be released this week and you have the opportunity to do everything from get the inside scoop on the movie and it’s stars to even being in the film and saying a line. This is not a talking heads green screen film. This is a Blockbuster film and we will be casting well known actors. be part of ‘ARJUNA’ and help us make the world a better place through it’s message. More details soon.

PS: What perk would entice you to be part of the crowdfunding platform. Any ideas?


Sabbatical – should you?

May 13, 2015

After being on the road doing business in 46 countries and over 1,000 events for the past 10 years, it’s time to take some time out, reflect on what’s next and make it even better. Of course I always welcome interaction with our circle of excellence members, plus we are full on into our new feature film, have a documentary coming out soon, and a few other projects, but there will be a lot more reading books, chilling out and Landi Jac and I are off to Europe for 3 months soon, and of course Greece. Have you ever considered a sabbatical and if so, what would you do?


It took me ages to come to this decision. Whilst I have been teaching Lifestyle Entrepreneurship for about 4 years, living in Greece for the winter months for the past 3 years and generally organising my business to travel the world and hang out with cool people transforming the planet and making a difference the fact of the matter was I was pretty much working most of the time. So with the advent in 2015 of Dave Rogers and I sharing #youism, the biggest shift and trend of the next 5 years I thought… its time.

I guess it always takes a prompt. Mine was a few things – here they are:

  • Listening to Landi Jac share how she is getting off email in 2015, so thinking why not and having reduced my email by about 70% since january… yes folks it can be done.
  • Getting people off ringing me up… that’s taken a year or so, but I truthfully never get a call now except the occasional one from friends
  • A shift in the industry I am in, making me think how I want to approach it in future. I am truly sick and tired of these supposed personal development gurus who don’t walk their talk, take advantage of people in weak moments and don’t deliver… (yes its a gripe… I would love to have the balls to name a few of them – but instead I will focus on what I can control…. me and my delivery)
  • A few little minor health things, especially my somewhat high blood pressure that I have had since 25. It’s definitely related to type A, so yes I eat grapefruit, drink little alcohol (bugger it), eat cayenne pepper and a few other things to manage it
  • And lastly the fact that after 1,000 events + in the last 10 years… I just need some long service leave.

So – I’ll update you here from time to time on what’s going on. We are off to Europe and visiting about 19 different countries with only 5 days of events in that time and the highlight – finishing with a northern lights cruise out of Northern Norway.

You work hard… probably too hard. If you are reading this and you are male then my caution is to watch out for things like:

  • I must be busy (Landi says the business of being busy is no longer cool… and she’s right)
  • I must make a Million (just make enough to do what you want. Corolla or Ferrari… You won’t impress me thats for sure)
  • I have to look good amongst my friends (that’s the biggie and it traps me too…but its a walk seriously… get over yourself… looking good could cost you your sanity, relationship and health)

If your reading this and you are a female:

  • You are not responsible for the health, wellbeing and mothering of anyone of even near adult age. Think what you were like as a 16+ year old.
  • You are not your partners puppet. You have dreams, and wishes too
  • Don’t just agree with your man and go down the same road.
  • If you are a career driven female entrepreneur, like most of my audience then what I wrote about the men traps may apply to you.

Bottom line, look after you first. You are the centre of your universe and if you are anything less than 100%, in your life, career, relationships or health, you can never be anything you really want to be.

My issue is keeping my mind quiet. I have already had 50+ ideas in the first 7 days of this sabbatical thing. Even this blog is one of them. Let’s see how it goes. Drop me your comments and ideas on my Facebook or here.

Hall of Fame

May 5, 2015

At Rock Your Life we wish to acknowledge stunning members of our Circle of Excellence and have decided to do so by putting together a Hall of Fame where every December the board of Rock Your Life get together and vote on our members who have been exceptional during the year. The categories one can be nominated under are:

  1. Excellence – this means they have significantly improved their business and their life. It could include revenue increases, asset increases or simply living one’s passions to the maximum and reflecting that to the world.
  2. Innovation – This means developing something that is unique, perhaps world changing, maybe green technology, perhaps sustainable, maybe disruptive technology that turns an industry on its head
  3. Contribution – This is clearly the way and manner in which this individual contributes to the world at large. How they play a bigger game, involving social contribution, charity work or work of a non profit basis.

In 2014 we are proud to induct the following people into the Rock your Life Hall of Fame.


Garry & Jo Newton (Excellence) New Zealand

What a superb year they have had, integrating new business partner Wayne Baird whom they found at  Rock Your Business, their business has grown by over 200% and the are now considered one of the most significant structural engineering companies in New Zealand, working on many large projects including rebuilding Christchurch following the 2011 earthquake. www.structuralconcepts.co.nz


Kim Davey (Excellence) USA

The winner of Entrepreneur X Factor globally 2013, Kim has gone from strength to strength building a lifestyle with her new hubby in Seattle whilst starting her expanded venture of World Class dance Tours taking kids from NZ to LA & London to meet with an learn from dance experts the likes of which work with Lady GaGa, Madonna and similar artists. Kim’s business is booming and she is in total flow. http://www.worldclassdancetours.co.nz


Paul Lyons (Innovation) Australia

Initially from the UK and based in Perth Western Australia Paul’s business www.ecocentricenergy.com.au is a techno giant in the making. paul has done a lot f work in his own personal and professional development in the past few years and now with funding by the WA government who see his brilliance the UK is calling with a variety of offers and potential on the table. Next year Paul will fly.


Shazar Robinson (Contribution) India

Shazar is a social contributor in many ways. having socially funded via crowd funding a jeep for Khmer guide Mr V, with another project to bring water to Indian villages, Shazar spend her time between Australia, Cambodia and India where she passionately leads one of the teams at Shiksham Gram orphanage in Lonavala, an awesome project in which we at Rock Your Life take a keen interest. https://www.facebook.com/shikshan.gram


Anne & Melinda Tham (Excellence) Malaysia

Voted one of the top schools now by Cambridge University these two powerhouse sisters have built a spectacular modern and cutting edge school in Kuala Lumpur. Focussing on new teaching techniques, building community as well as test scores and with a whole wing committed to building learning Apps the kids at Sri Emas are the children of the future. It’s well worth a visit if ever in  KL. www.sriemas.edu.my

There are also two very special mentions for our youngest member:


Eric Lassard (Excellence) Ireland

Eric turned 11 this year and has been an entrepreneur, professional speaker, author and board game creator, starting at age 6. Based in Dublin, Ireland this year saw Eric on large stages in Ireland, plus on the Global Internet Summit, working with the Mayor of Dublin, and other famous people, spreading his message that is equally applicable to 50 year olds as it is to teenagers and pre 10′s. www.z-ettitude.com


Phillip Silverman (Innovation & Excellence) New Zealand

Phillip has totally followed his passion as a sculptor studying in New York and in Florence in 2014 with some of the great Italian masters. He is developing his art into a business, whilst also following his other passion of weightlifting and reducing his 9 – 5 activities to pursue his dreams. If you want a bust created of yourself or a loved one – you will be blown away by what Phillip can do.


Personal Brand & your Business

August 26, 2014

RYPB S1 copyI’m about to embark on a series of Personal Branding workshops in South Africa, Australia & New Zealand. I decided to bring these back after five years off, as I did them the world over for two years. It got me thinking, what’s changed in Branding in five years and what the hell does that mean for the entrepreneur or career minded individual. As I did my research to update the workshop and spoke to my mentors the results were outstanding. Here are 3 things you may not know:

  1. No one gives a damn who you think you are any more – it means SQUAT… nothing. People simply know you by your online presence and privacy is ‘no-longer’ cool. People want to KNOW YOU. The real you – not the facade.
  2. Most of the world is brand conscious now. People have become drones that shop where the brands they know are. Everyone knows Coke and McDonalds are not that good for you, but people are still buying them on masse. People are still shopping where they know, even though they get no service, because they are brand familiar
  3. It’s no longer cool to be quiet. People expect you to have a ‘voice’. Steve Jobs made being a nerd on stage cool and now you can’t be an entrepreneur and not know how to speak in public.

These are just three things I found that I am sharing here. There is so much more.

So what is a Personal Brand? Here are some tips so we are on the same page and you’re not guessing:

  • A personal brand is the face of a business. It’s the personality of the business. It’s what draws you. (What would Virgin be without Branson… answer… just another airline)
  • A personal brand is you staking your ground as an expert, a person of note, a go to person, a wizard or similar. When you think of Hip Hop you think of Dr Dre, when you think of Basketball it’s Michael Jordan, and technology it’s Jobs, Gates and Zuckerburg
  • A personal brand is consistent, or else it’s not a brand. Think Michael Jackson or Boy George or Paris Hilton. It’s consistent. yet Madonna the genius found a way to reinvent constantly to meet change. That’s an art in itself.

You see the reason any entrepreneur ‘has to’ do this is straightforward. You are either memorable or you aren’t and being memorable denotes success. I’m not saying you can’t be successful with a great product and nothing more but most people aren’t. Great products, just like talented musicians, sportspeople, writers and others never get anywhere, because they don’t have a brand that’s memorable. By the way, memorable isn’t wearing a bear suit. It has to be congruent with your soul.

If you want more success in your life and business, hence more $ in your pocket then read on… 

Here are seven tips to help you be a more effective brand:

  1. Become an author, write a book that places you as an expert, or at the very least some excellent published articles
  2. Get on radio and TV. Start walking your talk and learn to be media savvy
  3. Have a consistent, concise and articulate message
  4. Create brand collateral (logos, cards, pens, caps tshirts etc) that are totally in line with who YOU are, not who you think you should be to get business
  5. Learn to speak and present
  6. Understand social media – but more importantly, understand which one is right for you
  7. Be yourself… everyone else is taken (‘an oldie but a goodie), seriously people see through fakes in 2 seconds these days

By the way. this is what I am sharing in South Africa, Australia and New Zealand, plus much more. If you are interested to be better, to understand yourself more, then come along. I’ll be myself and I’ll be profound and rock your ideas… why… because that’s my brand. Click here for details (Sept – Oct 2014)


Stepping up and Giving Back – the Rewards for All.

July 30, 2014

Would you be prepared to show a live feed of yourself sitting on a toilet to raise money for something you totally believed in?

Simon Griffin’s did just that. He created a company called “Who Gives a Crap” and pledged to give half the proceeds to helping the more than than 2.4 billion people on the planet who do not have access to sanitation. Simon’s big ‘WHY’ was to make the world aware of the crisis in global sanitation.

Then to finance his first batch of toilet paper he raised the capital with crowd funding. You can see his campaign here.

Just imagine what this campaign has done for his business. He even went as far as showing a live feed of himself sitting on a toilet during this campaign. He was ready to put it all on the line.

What do you think it could do for your business if you raised $50,000 with a crowd funding campaign and half of that money went to a charity of your choice?


Imagine – you are in the business of making widgets. You need start up capital for your factory workshops. Imagine asking your friends to help you. Imagine that call for help going viral and have people who you have never met helping to fund your business.

There are a number of keys to the skill and the art of crowd funding. The first is the big WHY.

When your WHY is bigger than the HOW or the WHO or the WHEN or anything else.. you will also be ready to leap in with all you have.

And its all in the story – when you can tell the story that captures the imagination of the viewer or reader – it will spread like wildfire.

Most of you are aware of Buy1Give1 – it is the stories that they tell that encourage us to stand behind them and the thousands they support.


When your customers know your WHY will touch lives – will make a difference and that your heart is behind all you are doing – they will walk out of their way to buy your products and support your services.

The statistics show this to be true – get behind your favourite cause – advertise the fact that you are making a difference and watch the difference wash into your business.

Even if you start out doing it because of the stats and because it is your ‘corporate social responsibility’ as it grows, the difference you are making will create such a change in your life that it will quickly become the major reason you are stepping up to give back.


Author: Shazar Robinson – crowd funding consultant – professional volunteer – Project Manager Rock Your Life Social Responsibility

Please join with Rock Your Life on Buy1Give1 and let’s make a difference together! Just scan the QR code below to get to our site on Buy 1 Give 1


Entrepreneurship in Music – a 40 Year story

May 24, 2014

I almost never cut and paste stories at all but growing up I really was a huge Kiss fan. Co-Founder Paul Stanley (now 62), recently released his autobiography and it’s a very very good book. If you love Rock Music, have a passion for entrepreneurship, deal with a megalomaniac, and some pretty talented yet destructive staff in your business then you should read it. Also, if you are in a business like Rock Music and are deaf in one ear. Wouldn’t that hold you back?

So folks – have a read of this article – it’s a cut and paste from Yahoo written by Jon Weiderhorn and see how you feel about your issues afterwards. GOYA (get off your …) is not a bad mantra.

Dealing with the TV and film dalliances of Gene Simmons, the multiple fragmentation of the original KISS lineup, and conflicts with everyone from former managers to the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame is nothing compared to the traumas and trials Paul Stanley faced in childhood — the most daunting of which was growing up with a rare condition, Level 3 Microtia, that caused most of the cartilage on his right ear to be missing.

Largely because of his physical appearance he was bullied and ostracized, and survived by withdrawing and living much of his life inside his head, all of which he documents in vivid detail in his new memoir, Face the Music: A Life Exposed.

“Many people in the same position will end up with either a shotgun in their mouth or a needle in their arm,” Stanley told Yahoo Music. “Really, it comes down a simple choice. Do you live as a victim, or roll up your sleeves and make a life for yourself?”

Even those who can’t name the original members of KISS know the answer to the rhetorical question. Paul Stanley is one of the biggest success stories in rock music. As the band’s main songwriter and vocalist for more than 40 years — not counting the time he, Simmons, ex-guitarist Ace Frehley, and former drummer Peter Criss spent in KISS predecessors Wicked Lester — Stanley helped pioneer the evolution of arena rock and, along with his bandmates, became icons of pop culture.

KISS has sold more than 100 million albums worldwide, and along the way Stanley has indulged in every whim and rock ‘n’ roll fantasy — which for him, has not included drugs and alcohol, something he has spoken a great deal about in the past.

Incredibly, Stanley rose to the top and crafted some of the greatest rock anthems and ballads while half-deaf. In 1982 he underwent reconstructive surgery and had a piece of his rib cage molded into a makeshift ear. Even so, he still can’t hear normally. “As far as the music went, I never missed anything because you don’t miss what you’ve never had,” he insisted. “I hear music the way I hear it. It’s normal to me, but it’s not the way you hear music. And one of the key issues is if there’s a lot of noise I can’t hear people talking in front of me because only one ear is taking all the sound in. And I also can’t tell direction of sound. So if I’m driving and a fire engine is coming I could just as easily drive into the path of it as away from it because I don’t know where it is. But that hasn’t hurt me at all when it’s come to writing songs for KISS.”

At age 62, a time when many people’s hearing is on the wane anyway, Stanley is still going strong. KISS were recently nominated into the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame and will tour with Def Leppard from June 23 in Salt Lake City, Utah through August 31 in The Woodlands, Texas. Pretty much everything Stanley has strived for in his career has come to fruition. Interestingly, one thing he never wanted until recently was authorship of a book.

“I was adamant about not writing a book for decades,” he said. “The world doesn’t need another one of those ‘look at me, I’m the coolest guy’ nonsense that most autobiographies of entertainers tend to be. They tend to be overinflated, self-promoting, and, a lot of times, glaringly not accurate.”

Stanley finally decided to sit down with co-writer Tim Mohr to discuss Face the Music because he’s in a great place in his life, and wanted a document he could hand his four kids so they would understand where he came from and what it took for him to overcome the obstacles he has faced.

“Once I decided what kind of book I could write, it was very easy,” Stanley said. “I don’t want to say it was cathartic because the catharsis came before I wrote the book. Some people say it’s such a great book because it’s so intimate. I couldn’t write a book if I was still in the midst of what was going on in the book. The book has a happy ending, and that’s why it was worth writing. After I was done with it, my son read it, and he said, ‘It’s you. It’s your voice, it’s your humor. It’s you talking.'”

As Stanley continues to celebrate the success of his first book, he’s also looking forward to the release of KISS 40, a double-disc set consisting of 40 songs — one from every KISS release and four previously unreleased tracks (the 1977 demo “Reputation,” “Deuce” live from 2004, “Cold Gin” live from 2009, and “Crazy Crazy Nights” live from 2010. Elsewhere, there’s a career-spanning collection of songs, including the explosive 1975 live version of “Rock and Roll All Nite” from Alive, which took KISS to a new level of stardom,and the controversial disco song “I Was Made For Lovin’ You from the 1979 album Dynasty.

“I can’t be anything but proud of [‘I was Made For Lovin’ You,’] a song that was a top five hit around the world,” Stanley said. “I can’t be anything but proud of a song that, in spite of people having ambivalent feelings, is still probably the biggest crowd raiser in Europe when we play it.”

Having said that, Stanley admits “I Was Made for Lovin’ You” came during a turbulent point in the band’s career. “Towards the end of the seventies, we were in the midst of being lost and not quite knowing who we were anymore and losing sight of what we loved and why we got into this in the first place,” he said. “We had problems within the band. Peter was basically a non-functioning member who didn’t play on albums at that point — Ace being in all kinds of trouble with drugs and drinking and Gene being distracted by Hollywood and me looking for the same validation from the wrong people — we started looking for credibility from people who didn’t matter. We already had the credibility of the people who did. ‘I Was Made For Lovin’ You’ was a result of a lot of things going on and it was an experiment on my part that turned out very well even though some people didn’t like the result.”

While Stanley has a fonder place in his heart for some KISS albums than others, he said that together they tell a story of a band that followed its path, made mistakes along the way, but ultimately enjoyed far more triumphs than failures. “My sense was always that KISS was about having no rules and although I hold the fans in the highest of esteem, I also expect them to understand that everything we do may not be to their liking, and the way they can show us is by not buying it. And they’ve spoken loudly and clearly when they didn’t like what we’ve done. But we couldn’t have done Creatures of the Night if we didn’t do Music From The Elder. I don’t begrudge anything we’ve done because everything we do leads us to where we ultimately get.”

Some KISS fans will always long for the reformation of the band’s original lineup, which after the Hall of Fame debacle seems less likely than ever to happen. But Stanley insists his favorite lineup ever is the current one, which includes guitarist Tommy Thayer and drummer Eric Singer: “It embodies everything I’ve always wanted this band to be — a four-wheel drive car where everyone feels blessed to be there and works for the benefit of the band and also realistically works within what they are capable of doing and doesn’t try to be anything more than that,” he said. “It’s been great and it’s a lineup where we socialize and have a great time together and play fantastically onstage. It’s really the band I’ve always wanted it to be. The original lineup was combustible, and combustibility is terrific until it implodes and that’s unfortunate. The concept of combustibility is fine as long as it is harnessed. In the case of KISS it clearly led to the demise of the original lineup. That’s life.”

Intimacy – are you being held for ransom by YOU

March 25, 2014

In entering my new relationship recently, we had fun with all sorts of astrology, numerology and psychic readings about us being the perfect match. Whilst we were of course, both of us were told several times we had intimacy issues. On the surface it would not appear that way for either of us, however below the surface they were definitely there so we went on a quest to solve those issues.


In coaching I have realised that intimacy or it’s foe – reserved and clinical, holds people back. It’s not that you have to be intimate with everyone. In fact discernment would rule over that pretty well, however most people are not even intimate with themselves.

Intimacy = INTO ME I SEE

When was the last time you stood in front of the bathroom mirror naked and inspected yourself?

When did you last share that part of you with a loved one, trusted friend, counsel or even your priest in confession?

When was the last time you actually told yourself the truth?

So what is intimacy and what should you do to connect with it? An intimate relationship is an interpersonal relationship that involves physical or emotional intimacy. A close, familiar, and usually affectionate or loving personal relationship with another person or group. Strangely when you google it – intimacy talks about being intimate. It’s like there is nothing it means, it just is.

Intimacy to me is being true to yourself, and being true to those you love and to those that you work with and live alongside. For example, the best way to get ahead is to stop kidding yourself. I see so many people that say ‘I’m OK’ when obviously they aren’t. I was an only child. Asking for help was foreign to me. In the front page of my diary every year I have written: Ask for Help. It’s there to remind me to share issues and areas where I need help. All the best people in the world need help.

Being intimate with your partner is about sharing your truth. I’m not saying go home and declare your love for the neighbour to your spouse, but maybe share that you are having issues with your attraction in your present relationship and you wish to address it.

Being intimate with your work is allowing your clients and staff to see you as human, not a 1980’s machine. When I started work I was told to keep all my stuff at home and under no circumstances bring it to the office. Im not saying to dump your crap on the receptionist, but I am saying that if you aren’t having a great day, take it off, certainly don’t try and sell anything or have big meetings, tell the boss you need some time or space and come back refreshed and revitalised after you have worked out what is making you feel that way, or if it persists seek help.


We share some pretty cool intimate secrets and our relationship is much stronger for it. I didn’t delete photo’s of ex girlfriends as she knows I have had them, and I didn’t ask her to. In fact we share what we learnt from those relationships that we liked or that didn’t work for us so we could have a stronger relationship.

Isn’t it about time you were honest with the one person who deserves it – YOU.

5 Time Management Genius ideas so I can live anywhere in the world

January 3, 2014

I returned to work on the 3rd of Jan after not having my laptop open since 21 Dec, 12 full days of no work bliss. I was hesitant to do this as I normally average around 130 emails a day. So I could have expected to have 1560 emails – Eeeks. Yet, because of the holiday season I had around 970 emails unopened. Answering and going through them took 33 minutes. I timed it. Lots of comments on Facebook when I posted that, so it motivated me to do this post, because even though we have a number of companies and speak at over 100 events each year and go to over twenty countries I still find I have plenty of time. So why is everyone so damn busy. Maybe I have just worked cool ways to stay sane. You won’t believe some of these and you will say – I couldn’t do that, but I ask you just to consider for a moment if you could – what what your life look like. Here is the key:

You own your life – your life doesn’t own you. 

So here is what I do to make sure I have got the time to hang with friends, play guitar, work on cool projects and travel the world.

1. I almost never take phone calls 

I have educated clients and friends not to ring me. In fact if my phone rings and you are not in my phone list it’s not getting answered. I am thinking of taking voicemail off all together. But when you get my voicemail this is what it says: ‘Hi this is Mike Handcock – Please don’t leave a message. Email me at …. or if urgent text me to this number.’ Occasionally I get a text, I don’t listen to voicemail hardly at all. ‘Oh but Mike doesn’t it cost you business?’ Maybe – but I doubt it, but it gives me all my time back and that makes me even more able to run and service my business. (on average I receive 3 – 5 phone calls a month. 80% of those are from close friends)

2. I don’t push my emails to my phone

Why would I do that? I have got rid of calls. I don’t want to be on my phone at all. My phone is a tool for me to use for me to be more efficient. Watch anyone come out of a conference or meeting. They immediately check voicemail and their emails. It’s rare in any business that clients are phoning or emailing to buy more so therefore they are just putting more weight on already non productive shoulders. I’m not doing that. I’ll do my emails when I want to do them.

NOTE* – Ha Ha – ever since Tim Ferriss wrote the 4 hr work week he works a lot more than 4 hrs a week, speaking, coaching and training.


Mike’s 2013 Winter Office

3. Emails

I actually do my emails first thing in the morning and I set a game time of 45 mins for the game. My method is I firstly go through and hit the delete button on all non relevant emails (sales letters etc). I keep subscribed because occasionally I may want to see what is going on. I then start at the top and go through each email. If its shorter than a few lines I answer it immediately and about 90% of them are. If it’s a long diatribe, I flag it for later. If I still have time at the end I answer it, other wise it stays til later in the day, or at worst the next day. That way everyone gets a response within 24 hrs.

4. I shortened my meeting times

My clients will tell you they meet with me by Skype mainly for 30 mins. I used to set aside an hour, then I reduced it to 45 mins now to 30 mins. It could go to 20 easily. What this does is gets rid of story and goes straight to the facts. You have 10 meetings a week – you just saved 5 hrs. My buddy Justin Herald taught me that when someone request a meeting then request a full brief. It can normally be dealt with by return email without spending hours in traffic.

5. Trust your people – trust your product – or change them

This was taught to me by Alan Butcher of Build 7 and it’s genius. If you have staff or contractors then you need to brief them and trust them and you need to have confidence in your brand and delegate. Empower people. So many times as a corporate I saw bosses keep people in the dark to maintain power. What a load of bullocks, no wonder they are stressed. I love to empower people, and yes they make mistakes, but the alternative is do it all yourself and don’t have a life.

I would rather have a life. In 2014, Im going to be living in NZ and Romania, I’ll be visiting at least 15 countries and having some amazing times. Don’t be stuck in the same crap that got you stuck in the first place.


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